By Robert Schramm, MA, BCBA
1、Show your child that you are the one in control of the items he wants to hold or play with and that you will decide when he can have them.
2、Show your child that you are fun. Make each interaction you have with him an enjoyable experience so that he will want to follow your directions to earn more time sharing experiences with you.
3.、Shou your child that you can be trusted. Always say you’re your mean and what mean you say. say your child should do something, don’t allow him access to reinforcement until it has been acceptably
completed. This includes prompting him to completion if necessary.
4、Show your child that following your directions is to his benefit and the best way for him to obtain what he wants. Give your child easy directions as often as possible and then reinforce his decisions to participate by following them with good  experiences.
5、 In the early stages of earning instructional control with your child reinforce after each positive response moving to an ever increasing variable ratio of einforcement.
6. Demonstrate that you know your child’s priorities as well as your own.
7、Show your child that ignoring your instructions and choosing inappropriate behavior will not result in the acquisition of reinforcement.

翻译如下：

七步赢得对你孩子的教学控制

1.让你的孩子知道,你控制着他想要的或想玩的,由你决定他何时可以得到.

2.让你的孩子知道你很有趣.让你们共度的时光变得愉快,从而让他愿意跟从你获得更多的快乐经历.

3.对孩子保持诚信,言出必行,不姑息迁就．

4、让你的孩子知道听从你的命令对他是最有好处的，是他获得他想要的东西最好的途径。尽可能地给孩子简单的命令，然后强化他带着期望听从你的命令做事情。

5、在赢得教学控制的早期阶段，每个正面的反应都给予强化物，然后变化给予强化的比率。

6、你要对孩子的全部技能了如指掌。

7、让你的孩子知道忽略你的命令和选择不适当的行为将不会获得强化物。